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:thumb804300028: Okay so B UR SLF had a shop at PRIDE and I am so grateful that they were there! I had never heard of them before then and I bought a binder of there's at PRIDE, and I hope to buy another one soon! Something that I really want to take a moment to talk about is, anxiety while wearing a binder. I have horrible anxiety and I often experience anxiety attacks. Anxiety attacks while wearing a binder are THE WORSE. When I feel anxious, I can't wear a binder, it freaks me out. I personally really struggle with compression on my chest, and binding can actually lead to me having an attack sometimes. It sucks. Pullover binders are ha

Gender dysphoria sucks, here are some tips that might help lessen the blow. I'd like to give a big thanks to my dear internet friend N.J. (DexinDraws (https://www.deviantart.com/dexindraws)) for inspiring me and adding their own thoughts to this chapter! Reading stories with respectful trans representation. Examples: My Quest To A Beard by Alex Bertie (non-fiction), I Am J by Cris Beam (fiction), and By Any Other Name by L1av (online fan-fiction). Watching entertaining transgender YouTubers. Example: Ty Turner (trans-male). Watching shows/movies with respectful trans representation. Example: One Day At A Time (Netflix Original). Wearing graphic t-shirts from the men's/boy's secti

Labels have always been a struggle for me, I've known that I wasn't cisgender or heterosexual for the longest time but I couldn't figure out exactly what I was. I'm a very precise person so not being able to find an exact label for myself was impossible to accept. I kept searching and searching but I still couldn't figure it out and it drove me crazy because I so desperately wanted to belong but I felt that I couldn't be a part of the queer community without a set it stone label (which I now know isn't true). I kept switching from label to label just to see if something would stick, but nothing ever felt right 100% of the time. It was like o

A "deadname" is the birthname of someone who has changed their name, typically only used for trans/nonbinary people but not always. You don't have to change your name if you don't want to or don't see a reason to, but this chapter is made for those who do wish to change their name. Some find it easy picking out a name, others not so much. Remember that there's no pressure in finding a name, take your time and find what's right for you! Here's some stories of how other trans/nonbinary people (including myself) found their name (and feel free to comment with your story).... I'm a trans guy and my name is Colin. My dad passed away when I was th

Neopronouns are pronouns commonly used by people who lie outside the gender binary (she/her and he/him). Neoponouns (nonbinary pronouns) can be confusing when you're first trying to figure them out, so I decided to make a little guide on how to use them correctly! I obviously wasn't able to include all neopronoun sets, so I listed the top five most common ones I've seen! If you're curious how any other neopronouns sets work then feel free to comment with them or privately message me! Pronoun Sets: He | Him | His | Himself She | Her | Hers | Herself They | Them | Theirs | Themselves (or Themself) Ze | Zir | Zirs | Zirself Xe | Xir | Xirs